Growing up I was such a scary cat !! I hated sleeping alone I remember falling a sleep sitting up cause I didn’t want to go to bed. I have two older sisters but they are nine and ten years older than me.
Of course they let me cuddle and sleep with them when they were home… But that wasn’t a lot during the teen years and then moving off to.
Now my parents are and were amazing but didn’t love when I tried to sleep with them. My choices usually consisted of making a pallet on the floor by my parents bed or my mom laying down with me then seeking out.
It sucked… why I didn’t want to sleep alone and be a “big girl” I have no idea??
And then thinking back my parents kept the bedroom door closed and we kinda knocked or yelled mom or dad as we entered.
And all that was fine and normal… But now in my house with my kids its all free ! My son sleeps in his bed cause he likes it and my daughter sleeps with us cause she likes and I do as well.
We are not secretive and our bedroom is definitely not off limits and we never shut. Odd right ??? Do we have sex ha ! Yes yes we do we are not lacking in that department. And co sleeping hasn’t changed our love life we just simply go to a different room. I know a few friends who do co-sleeping, some who have at least tried it, and others who can’t imagine sharing their murphy beds with their children.
People have so many different opinions on co-sleeping and the parents room being off limits and some even find that they can’t share so much as their mattress with their children. But y’all now know mine and this is what I have learned so far:
– We sleep way more and better.
– We don’t have to take turns laying down with my daughter. Cause she hates sleeping alone.
– We don’t lay down with her and then fall asleep and end up sleeping in different beds.
– Its cramped some nights but I will so miss that one day when she’s to her family.
– My son does not feel left out when his feet hit the floor he comes and jumps in the with us all.
– Having a always open door in the bedroom makes me feel like my kids trust us and we are open with them.
– Not having sex in the bedroom is not a bad thing yall !
– I truly enjoy her sleeping and cuddling with me so why defend that ? I don’t.
I totally see both sides and never judge those who are so opposed to my views but this is what works best for us and makes me feel like I’m doing just one more thing right.
How do yall feel ? Co sleeping or no way ? Maybe something in between ?
Would love to hear your thoughts.
Cynthia @craftoflaughter says
I am a real believer in co-sleeping! Thank you for the great post
yannivlovely says
I’d like to say that I am in between. I believe on one hand that you should soak up as much loving from your child as possible because they are small for only so long. I also believe in the parents’ bedroom being an oasis. I love sleeping with our daughter, but she is such a WILD sleeper causing one or both of us not to get enough sleep! lol.. maybe if we upgrade to a king sized bed it will be much easier. Thanks for sharing!
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Amanda says
I was the same as a child! I have always had a crazy imagination and would scare myself all the time. My parents were always amazing about letting me crawl into bed with them, and I am extremely thankful. I laughed at your comment about making a pallet of pillows and blankets on the floor, because in my middle school years I did the same! I know how comforting it is as a child to be able to cuddle up with your parents in the middle of the night, so once I have kids I will definitely do the same!
Lara @ MommyKazam says
We do something somewhat in between…. If daddy has to work in the morning, Littleman has to sleep in his own bed. On Friday and Saturday nights we all have a “sleepover.”
Megan Harney says
Our daughter slept with us a bit at the beginning, but she moved into a bassinet in our room pretty quickly. By the time she turned 6 months, she was in a crib in her own room and now she flails and kicks so much while she sleeps that she could never sleep with us! Every time I try to take a nap with her now she ends up laying across half my face!
Jessica says
I do not feel alone. We have co-slept with all of our children…my son still sleeps in our bed and I still allow my girls to crawl up next to us (I do not mind, my husband cannot stand it). I like to remind my husband that our children are only getting older and we need to enjoy them. I love them and they love us.
A Life in Progress... says
In our family I’m all for co-sleeping my husband is against it. It does create arguments. We are working on keeping our son in his bedroom more. It’s hard because being near me is a comfort for him.
Alex says
My sis and I both went through times like this! So I perfectly understand!
serenemomblog says
We co-slept with both of my kids, and now they’re in their own beds at night but every morning they come cuddle up in our bed and we go back to sleep. I really loved co-sleeping, especially when they were babies! We got much more rest 🙂
Alex from Sew, Simmer, and Share says
This is something I’ve never thought of, since I don’t have kids yet, but I’m not sure how I would feel about it. I wake up a lot when I sleep with someone else, and it gets really hot, even with just my husband. I’m not sure how I would do with a kid in the mix. We shall see though!!
Laci Carlson says
I get soooo hot too that’s definitely a con for me 2.
Betsy @ Happily Ever After Etc. says
It’s interesting to hear that you hated sleeping alone… my brother and I LOVED going to sleep in our own rooms from the time we were little! My brother literally slept through the night in his own bed the first night he came home from the hospital and it took me only a week or so to get the hang of it. I love having that alone time at night to wind down and decompress… I never thought about someone feeling the opposite! We don’t have kids right now but it will be interesting to see how they feel! Thanks for the post!