Marriage can be amazing and very stressful! Just like people with no kids have all the answers for people with kids. People that are not married think its so easy and everything is black or white and set in stone.
Sorry sweetie I’m pretty sure that’s why you not married or have never been !

I have only been married about four years which is nothing im ready for 40 more !!

We have two kids and we all know what that can cause, stress, tiredness and zero sex and a tedious routine that you forget your even married. The lack of sex can be what really brings the ‘spice’ of the relationship down a peg or two. However, some couples revert to viewing certain adult entertainment in order to try and cook up some more fire in the bedroom. If you and your partner wish to do this also, you may want to check out something like TubeV.Sex japanese in order to try and get each other more aroused around each other.

When normal people get married i dont think they think well… if this sucks i will just go get a divorce. You truly love this person and want to spend the rest of your life with them.

We have loved being married and not had any over the top fights. It’s normally about money but were learning and working out a system that works for us individually.

I want to keep my soulmate happy and pleased at home and i expect the same in return. So I’ve been reading what married people have done in their relationship thats been married over 40 years. I will post the best tips I got at the end of this post.

I’m only thirtyish and thats young yall !!! So do something sassy and frisky ! It’s fun and most importantly exciting. No man wants sex on a schedule at a certain time and one way and only in the bed nope not even the southern Baptist preachers in my small town. So stop the BORING!

I will always fight for i love and that includes my marriage you cant let people or other family members on either side get involved or put down your spouse! It’s 100% disrespectful and hurtful and toxic so make them irrelevant like turning off the TV.

Yall follow my blog and my journey on married life with kids !! Lets share stories and laugh and cry togther along the way !!

Below you will find what i consider the best marriage tips i read take a peek can’t hurt ??

°• Kids can make a marriage stressful but one day they will be grown enjoy!

°• Affection breeds more affection so kiss good morning and have tons of sex.

°• Fill the refrigerator with all his favorite things.

°• Laugh ALOT together.

°• Celebrate when good things happen.

°• Don’t take each other for granted you have to work at a good marriage 100% of the time.

°• Remember that no marriage is immune from conflict.

°• Don’t keep your phones and computers password protected we dont at all if you have to re-think why.

°• Men want to feel desired we would be idiots to think no one never flirts with our husband.

Yall let me know what you think and all the amazing things that work for you and your marriage…

LC
XOXO
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I have heard many many success stories of men cheat one time feel awful change and grow even closer to their partner that’s not who this post is about. It’s for the ones that felt stuck like me.

Most of my blog followers know my past but I will give a short version of what I thought was a normal relationship… I was in a one sided relationship with a man for roughly 9 years.
I was young dumb and very rebellious when it started. I then got sucked in by the attention and smoothness that he possessed. I’m not sure when I realized I was being actively cheated on but I do know I made the choice to stay and I made the choice to believe everything he said even after I had proof that I saw with my own two eyes.
90% of the time I blamed the other woman what an idiot. The other 10% I was trying to figure out what I could do better or what I did wrong. I know hello INSANE !! hindsight is always 20/20 remember that before you judge the choices I made. I can’t even explain to you what efforts he went to to “prove” how much he loved me !!! It was all fake and a plan he was fulfilling to get what he wanted.

There were years that he was in prison and I stayed and he wrote and wrote and had me convinced he would change if you read them you would even be fooled.

My relationship got to the point where he could tell me my apple was purple and I would believe it.
I did the whole sneeking through his phone, following him, etc… you name it I did it and looked crazy in the process.

When did I wake up ? The day our daughter was born something changed inside me I felt like I didn’t even know me but I knew I didn’t want my daughter around any mess no matter what. My daughter is now 4 will be 5 in October and her dad is the man I married when she was two she knows no different. She will one day and will totally let her decide what to do with that information but in my heart I didn’t want that influence on her at all and if she resents me for that when she is older I will be okay with the decisions I made.

I stayed in a cheating relationship trying to fix it and him I couldn’t even leave my door open for something amazing !!! I thank God every single day I had my daughter and was able to move on and heal. I would have never met the amazing man that’s my husband he is so good to us I knew he was my soul mate the day I met him in his eyes me and the kids are his life. And we trust each other and that feeling is the best thing that’s happened to me.

You don’t need proof that your partner is cheating to know that something isn’t working between the two of you. Whether he’s actually charting or your just extremely paranoid,  evidence isn’t required to know something has to change. Driving yourself insane trying to catch him in the act of cheating won’t deliver the peace of mind your looking for. It will only make you feel and look crazy.

It’s a proven tested fact that… men cheat because they are cheaters when a man cheats it’s not because he was seduced by another woman’s wicked charms. It’s not because she offered something you didn’t. It’s not because she’s better than you. Cheaters cheat. They don’t need temptation it’s what they do.

If you are involved with a weak man, you will always end up sharing him. Beat up one girl, another one will be texting him next week. Cuss out two women online, they’ll be back in his inbox next month – He is the problem not the other women. You can’t spend your life trying to guard against what might happen when he’s left alone.
How do you compete with other women ? You find a man strong enough not to make them your competition in the 1st place.

I was the other woman even though I went to all family functions, he “stayed” @ MY house, we were always in public together etc… I had no more perks than the ones that got him while I was at work we were all on the same level. That’s what people have to realize I always thought I was better I wasn’t we were all the same no matter how you look at it if he cheats there is NO MAIN GIRL !!!!

Why was i mad at them ?? He was telling them the same stuff I was believing. I’m not bitter at all i forgive him totally and you will never catch me talking bad but my point is if your in a relationship like i was.. Just think what if my soul mates out there and i can’t see it because I’m to busy trying to fix something he broke

I am so glad I got cheated on or I wouldn’t be happy today.

LC
XOXO
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