I do ! Why ?? Cause I am a victim of mom gulit.
I feel mom guilt sometimes when people would be like what in the world. For example:
1. Not being more patient when they disobey.
2. For not having it me to be a stay at home mom. (Even if we were rolling in $.)
3. Taking time for myself even if it’s my hour at the gym.
4. Not feeding them as healthy as I should.
And the list piles up a mountain high !!!
I’m one of those parents with that voice in their head saying don’t fuss don’t make them do that. what if something happens to them I don’t want that to be the last thing they do and I don’t want to have to live with that. I know super heavy thoughts but it’s true ! So how do I parent my kids to be kind, sweet, responsible and independent if I constantly have this voice and guilt.
Don’t get me wrong it’s not a gypsy wind free for all act like a bunch of idiots at our house ! I make them mind Teach them manners and have the normal let’s clean up party.
Yes growing up and being a little girl I knew I always wanted to be a mom. I was though very unaware of all the responsibilities and how deeply it would change my way of looking at the world. But more so I was shocked of the deep gulit I would have in my journey of motherhood.
Call me insane or gasp at how I spoil my kids but dig deep down what’s your mom gulit weakness ?
I haven’t read what I’m thinking anywhere yet but I had a wake up call on the way to work Friday morning ! I started thinking I am simply setting my kids up for failure by never letting them be sad, mad or any other emotion I try to protect them from. So when I arrived at my 9:00 to 5:00 I made me a list to reflet on every time I feel guilt and hear that voice of shame start up in my head.
1. They have to know they will not and cannot always get what they want.
2. Teaching them to clean teaches them self worth and how to be independent.
3. Saying no to them means they will explore different options and activites.
4. Feeding them pizza and cookies before bed is okay every now and then. They are full and tired what else is needing for good rest ? Nothing !
5. Being a working mom is OK !! It shows and teachs them work ethic.
Our best needs to be good enough ! And our best may look very different than another mom’s best, but that’s the whole damn thing, our best has nothing to do with another mom’s best !!
Remember that the next time your looking at facebook and you spent your Saturday cleaning the house and watching TV with the kids and your scrolling along and the next mom spent their Saturday with the kids making fresh berry preserves and embroidered a quilt to have a picnic on in the woods !!!
(Ha – Ha don’t say you don’t compare to Facebook and pintrest mom’s deep down we all do) ♡♡
So now these days I’m primarily working on being gracious to myself. Being what i think is the best mom i can be. Giving my self mercy for the ways I don’t live up to my own standards.
Okay now it’s Yall’s turn comment away… on what yall do and don’t do to ward off mom gulit !! Let’s learn and lift each other up !!
LC
XOXO
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I can totally relate with you. I always feel guilty when I take time to work out or just need a min to myself and so I’ll let them watch a t.v. show so I can have some silence lol It’s always important that we do take time for ourselves though otherwise we wouldn’t be the best mom’s we could be. Your doing a great job!
No kidding we would be a bunch of crazies if we didn’t take a min to breath sometimes we just need a reminder we are doing amazing ♡
Being a working mom is absolutely okay! And patience is something I think every mom on the earth fights with DAILY!
Ive been feeling some serious ‘mom guilt’ too. Between working all the time, constantly falling behind for one reason or another, I feel bad about some of my parenting choices. It is easy to fall out of routine and that is what I’ve seemed to do a bit lately! With school back in session–it is really easy to do. Things go by SO fast and before you know it, your kid is guzzling a big gulp and eating a piece of pizza…in her room….for dinner. lol. I’m in the midst of putting a new plan together to make some serious modifications. Family dinners at the table are a first! And not feeling guilty for taking me time is really important—good post! xo
Exactly !!! That’s how I feel major ! But at least we know we could do things differently to make it better for everyone we got this !!! Thanks so much for you comment I love hearing other mom’s view !! •○●°●○•
Great post! & you are right, every mom at some point deals with this mom guilt. I am always upset with myself when I do not show more patience with my toddler. I try to remember that I am pregnant & hormonal so that plays its part. & the hubs and I have been working with our toddler to clean up after herself. It is hard work, but a good lesson to learn.
The first half of the post is exactly how I have been feeling!!! And the rest is so true! You have to think what you are teaching them! I often feel guilty about returning to uni then try and remember I am a better mum (as we say in England) when I am home after s break & I’m teaching my kids to follow their dreams?! Awesome post x
Love that !!!! Now I’m going to think about that a lot simply teaching my kids to follow their dreams !!! Thanks love that comment ●○•°••○°●•○
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I think every mom feels this way. I get mad at myself for losing my patience with her sometimes. I’m a stay at home mom right now but I am working on changing that. I have always worked sometimes multiple jobs my whole life and when I decided to stay home with her I didn’t know how hard it would be. I’m the type that NEEDS to work. I’m crazy. haha!
Haha I’m crazy to cause I Def know what you mean I crave routine and habit so I love working some days it may seem like to much but I know I would never be the best for my kids if I was a stay at home mom !! And we all feel like that sometimes no matter if your a super mom but it helps when we lift each other up and know hey its okay ♡♡ ●○•°•○°●○••°•○
I love this Laci. How very true! Doing everything for your kids now means you will continue the trend when they are 22 and moving back into your house for upteen years after college! I say every day, God gave me these kids to raise to be responsible humans not so that I can have best friends that are 24 years younger than me. Too many people want their kids to like them and have all they want.
Thanks for sharing and reminding us it’s ok to be a mother!
I don’t have kids, but I’m an aunt and I once got a tiny glimpse of the “mom guilt.” That is BRUTAL!!
Mom guilt is the worst… and it can eat you alive and debunk all confidence (what little we already may have) in our parenting.
We need to be gentle with ourselves. Don’t compare. Don’t Judge. We are each on our individual journeys of parenting little individuals.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this… we need to break free from the mama guilt. You’re doing a good job.
Wishing you a lovely evening.
xoxo