Okay so this whole 50 Shades movie is super controversial !! I read all three books when they came out. I didn’t think anything about it until the movie premiered and the people that didn’t agree with it started voicing their opinion.
While reading the books I had mixed thoughts that ranged from oh hell no… to oh okay yeah I might try that. And sometimes actually laughed out loud at how some of it was written almost childishly with bad sentencing.
Did it make me all hot and bothered ummm… No I actually just was curious about all the hype. I didn’t fall in love with Mr. Grey.
Sure some days I’m so tired I would be okay with my husband telling me what to do. But we all know when your married with little ones your lucky to get a quickie weekly. So I’m sure that’s where a lot of people’s fantasy’s come into play like what if ?
And while your thinking of your budget in your normal life here comes sexy walking billionaire.
I’m probably what people consider the opposite of a prude. So very little bothers me or makes me think what the heck.
But reading views that are anti 50 shades it also kinda makes since but I have a very open mind so I always respect every ones thoughts.
But I guarantee you I wouldn’t want my daughter watching it when she’s 17 or 18 thinking its okay or she must find someone like that. I think most people realize it’s all fantasy. But I also think some people may fall into an abusive submissive relationship.
Now as far as the whole “pain” thing in my opinion it’s way over the top that’s just not my cup of tea… If pain occurs during sex it makes me mad !! My hubby knows the deal.
So please tell me what y’all think I’m curious ???
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I like your honest and straight-forward approach. The books are poorly written and bad fantasy. I also would not like my daughter getting involved in a relationship like this. I worry that the book makes these type of relationships seem main stream and good for women. They are not.
Well said Mary
I haven’t read the book, mainly because I had heard that it was a terrible read due to its “almost childishly with bad sentencing” as you wrote. I had no idea what it was really about, but over the past week I have read quite a few posts that it is about abuse, I can not comment about what’s in the book as I said I haven’t read it, but I can understand there is a difference between fantasy and reality, from what I hear I wouldn’t want my daughters reading it at a young age (even if the writing is childlike) yes a quickie is sometimes all we can fit into our busy lives so a sexual fantasy is OK. However as a past victim of abuse I would hate to think that any young girls would think that it is OK to be abused as long as the guy is rich and sexy, let’s promote books and movies to young woman and men that show strong independent characters making their own money and not being abused. What goes on between consenting adults is there business, but let’s not promote abuse as ever being OK. I still fel ashamed about being abused even though I know I shouldn’t, I am working on that, I haven’t blogged about it on my personal website for this reason, however I have written about it on a friends website, I will attach the link here as it is a message everyone should hear. Sorry for rambling on, Love Mackenzie xx http://reflectionsfromaredhead.com/fight-for-the-freedom-to-be-heard/
So glad you rambled on. And you are so right just cause he’s a billionaire so what. Thanks so much for stopping by and giving your thoughts I’m now headed to your site. Xoxox lc
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I too consider myself very open-minded, but I think the controversy comes from 2 camps. There’s the people actually in the BDSM community who say the book is a bad and unsafe representation of what they do. Then there’s the feminists who say that it promotes unhealthy relationships. I tried reading it and couldn’t get past the bad writing personally! Hope you don’t mind me jumping into the convo, I enjoyed your post!
Hey Laci,
I read four pages of the first book in the bookstore…. That was all I could take for bad writing. As for the sex, well each to their cup of tea 😉 A few of my friends went to see the movie, and walked out half way through and went to the bar for a drink, they said it was that bad….. Yikes!
I can pretty much guarantee that you don’t want my opinion LOL But thanks so much for joining us at the #HomeMattersParty – we hope to see you again next week!
I read all three books also. I stayed with them mainly out of curiousity. I too am not a prude. I would not be okay with the pain thing. If some people like it, good for them. I wouldn’t want an impressionable young boy or girl idolizing this movie and thinking that some of the things that went on in the red room were okay. Him spanking her…hell no. Her having to get on her knees and not be able to look at him. Hell no. I feel there is a difference in sexual curiousity and being his sex slave (even if she did agree to it). It was interesting and I did learn some stuff so that’s something. I will watch the movie but probably not until it comes out on DVD.
I read the trilogy and even though it’s badly written I did enjoy the love story. Even though it’s buried under a whole lot of sex.
I havent read the books, nor have I seen the movie. I am far from a prude, but I had heard several reviews of both the books and the movies and it was enough to convince me I didnt need to spend my hard earned cash on it.
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Hi Laci,
I haven’t read the books and have never had the desire to. So I really have no clue as to what it is all about. I have heard all of the controversy and can see things from both sides as you have mentioned above. Thank you for joining us and linking up to Party Under the Big Top! Hope to see you again next time!
Wishing you a fabulous week!
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I never read any of the books but I saw the movie and OH MAN, it was really bad!!! lol
As much as we don’t want our daughters or sons getting involved in an abusive relationship – it happens. What can you do?
50 shades of grey is a movie. Movies are fantasy. They are not real. I just wanted to make sure everyone knows that. So, maybe I would suggest telling your kids (or remembering yourself) that when they watch something on TV or in the movie theater, it’s not real. Just because the character went and killed someone doesn’t make it okay for you to do it. Just because they jumped on their skateboard and it looked really cool – doesn’t mean that you do it. And just because this fictional character allowed herself to be involved in what I guess would be an abusive relationship (I didn’t see the movie or read the books), maybe you wouldn’t want to willingly put yourself in that situation.
I know I must be stupid, cause I just don’t get it.
If you don’t like the movie, don’t go and see it – I think that’s okay. But to force your views on someone else – in my opinion is wrong.
Exactly we all have an “opinion” right or wrong when it comes to opinions it doesn’t really matter. I see all sides… And my kids know movies aren’t real I just know some are not raised that way. No forcing views here just conversation. Thanks so much for stopping by.
I like your honest view, never read the book and not seen the movie, I don’t think I will see . As you are right with two kids getting some personal time itself is difficult. Also not like any kind of submissive relationship. Thanks for sharing with Hearth and Soul blog hop.
I read the first book as my 20 year old daughter had and I wanted to be able to discuss it with her. I was concerned about this idea of a controlling man being a desirable thing but we were able to speak about it and turns out she had come to the same conclusion. (sensible girl) I also didn’t like the premise that a young boy could be “saved” by this mysterious older woman and a abusive relationship. Mostly though I thought the book had a weak story and the most pitiful dialogue – honestly who speaks like that? Poor dialogue is one of my pet hates, it makes it so difficult to get lost in a book when it’s all so jarring.
I don’t think I’ll be seeing the movie, but I’m pretty sure the film makers won’t be loosing any sleep over the loss of my ticket purchase!
I have never seen the movie, so I cant really say much but I have heard enough about it to tell you that im sure its a “sexy” movie but also it looks like a movie that glamorizes abuse. While most of us ladies know the difference and realize its fantasy and “just a book or movie”, Teenagers live in a fantasy world now days are are easily persuaded. I wouldn’t want any girl or boy to think this is the “in thing” and the turn on way to act.
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I started reading all the books for the same reason most did…everybody was talking about it and I wanted to see what all the hype was about. I am pretty open-minded but I definitely would not be into most of those things and my husband knows what would happen if he tried to control me…LOL.
However, I don’t think most girls are going to see this and suddenly think that it’s okay to be treated like that. It’s purely entertainment. The book certainly won’t win any literary awards and I don’t expect to see the movie nominated for any Oscars, but I did enjoy reading the book and the movie was entertaining (however, keep in mind that all other movies I’ve seen over the last year have been rated G and animated so the bar is set pretty low).
I enjoyed your post and also reading everyone else’s opinions 🙂
So I usually like every book I read. I don’t think there’s a book I don’t like. That said, I really didn’t like the books. I stopped reading after the 2nd book. I don’t think it was very well written. I haven’t seen the movie and I probably will watch it because I’m interested in seeing how it compares to the books. Now, I would have been more prone to watch it and love it if Charlie Hunnam was Christian Grey! LOL Pinning and sharing! Thanks for sharing this at Totally Terrific Tuesday. I can’t wait to see what you have for this week!
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I’ve not read the books nor seen the movie. I can say that from what I’ve heard about both, I would not want my daughter involved in such a relationship. Thanks for sharing at the #HomeMattersParty – we hope to see you again next week. 🙂
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Hi Laci,
We’re so glad you were able to make it over to the #BigTopBlogParty this week! Hope to see you again at the next Party Under the Big Top too!
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I read all 3 books and it took me a while to finish the last one because I just didn’t care for them. I read books. I have an open mind and I know that some people enjoy things I would never think possible. What bothered me about the books was that I thought the relationship wasn’t healthy and I didn’t like him. It also reminded me of Twilight (yes, I said it). Anyway, it’s not about being a prude, I just don’t think I want my child with a man that has way too many issues and controlling like this character was.
Have you seen the meme yet that says “50 shade of grey is only ‘romantic’ because he’s a billionaire. If he lived in a trailer it would be an episode of criminal minds”? lol That pretty much sums it up. From the brief bits I read the female character was written as entirely too naive to be able to consent to that kind of relationship, and he stalks her…actually buying the place she works to control he, demanding she answer the phone he give her….so she’s at his beck and call? I did some serious skimming because I couldn’t take the writing but that is not a healthy relationship! I think it’s very disturbing that anybody would romanticize that and I am absolutely disgusted that there is apparently going to be another one. Hopefully it will fail miserably so we wont be subjected to a third.
Great post!
~Lisa