Stop, no, don’t and again stop, no, don’t that’s pretty much the only words that come out of mouth lately.
I think my toddlers drink a energy drink daily somehow. They are wild and crazy! Especially my boy he just wants to see how far up he can climb and then jump. Which in return gives me a heart attack. And my girl just wants to torture her brother and put on as much make up as possible (shes 5) !
A few days ago i was checking my email like always and not to my surprise had an email from her teacher saying she was hurting other students by bending their fingers back !! What !! What the heck !! My 1st thought was where in the world did she learn this madness? And good god her teacher is going to think we do this “finger bending” at home!
So when i picked her up that day we had a long talk. She said yes mom i did that but only to boys ummm… well only to boys is still not okay. They had their knees on my knees ar circle time i told them to move and they wouldn’t. So i explained you cannot do this ever again and if someone is bothering you tell your teacher and let her handle it. She said okay mom i promise. In my eyes that talk was good enough. #1 she told the truth. #2 she had what she thought was a good reason to do this (wow) !! And #3 I know how she feels i feel like bending peoples fingers back on a daily basis no that doesn’t make it okay but still all tiddlers react differently. And not to mention when you get a note sent home you feel like the worst mom ever !!!
Alen E. Kazdin professor of child psychology at Yale University says dont make such a big deal out of your kids actions and habits. Sometimes they will act like pint-sized sociopaths, but does not indicate trouble down the road.
Then i started thinking adults get mad, sad, angry and over stimulated daily and 1/2 the time adults dont control how they are feeling the correct way. So what makes people think that kids sre not going to act out and do things that people frown on ? Everytime we see a fussy mad toddler that’s pitching a fit does not mean the parents are not doing a good job it means kids are not robots and react on what they are feeling. And that is okay !!
Not taking a minute to put things in perspective has made me act more sternly towards my kids! Now if i can remember to do this more all my stop, no and don’t may turn into kids being kids.
In general i have two amazing toddlers and I’m going to do better with my expectations of them.
LC
XOXO
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I love the quote from the professor – kids really can act like sociopaths! I’ll have to remind myself of this next time my lovely daughter is testing me 🙂
I have a 4 year old boy…ai yai yai. He has taught me more patience then I ever thought was possible. I always said “my kid will never be like that”. Well guess what..when you have to plead with the lunch lady in the auditorium at your older daughters assembly for a banana so he doesn’t have meltdown in the middle of the awards assembly…..You realize that sh*t happens and you will stoop to any level necessary to get the job done. Not one of my finest moments, but I’ll choose the banana over the finger crimp any day.
I love your line about parents and kids who have tantrums. I love when people stare at me if my kids are being fussy. You know it’s someone who doesn’t have kids when they look at you like you have two heads! Thanks for sharing at the #SHINEbloghop
The other day I found myself about to throw a tantrum. It’s not easy sometimes to control our emotions young or old alike. What we throw our fits about may seem different at first glance but in reality they are comparable. We tend to forget that aspect of it.
I’m happy my 2 year old has far less tantrums lately for sure. 🙂
Haha no kidding i feel like here lately i have been top tantrum thrower in the house ♡♡
Your daughter sounds sweet 🙂 Thanks for stopping by the Sweet Saturday linkup 🙂
Thank you for sharing at the Thursday Favorite Things blog hop xo
Wow that quote from the professor is funny. But so true, some kids do act like sociopaths, but then grow out of that stage.
So glad I am a Nanna now and do have energetic little ones, thanks for link up with us @ Mum-bo Monday
I had 4 kids in 4.5 years. It was fantastic and crazy all rolled up into one. Kids are hard, but when they get a little older and you see them doing good things and making good choices, it makes motherhood so worth it. Hang in there. I’m sure you are doing a great job. Every kid does crazy stuff sometimes. Wanna read about one of our not so fantastic trips to the library a couple of years ago? Enjoy…http://www.glenrosesquare.com/2010/04/can-you-please-control-your-children.html
What a great read. I love that quote from Mandy Hale. Having kids definitely tests your patience but sounds like you are doing a great job with your kids! Thanks so much for sharing with us at Talented Tuesdays. I hope you join us again this week.
As a teacher, I love parents like yourself! So important to talk about incidents and make sure kids get to have their say and discuss how they feel and why they did something. That positive home-school connection is so important.
Aww… thx so much !! I find myself now wanting to please her teachers ♡♡
I 100% agree with that quote. I have a hard time reminding myself this because I do get frustrated. It’s funny, I get impatient when my kids get impatient. The irony. I am working on it 😉
Thanks so much for sharing at Totally Terrific Tuesday! I hope you stop by to link up with us again this week. Remember the party starts tonight at 10pm!
Christie ~ Sparkles of Sunshine