Stop, no, don’t and again stop, no, don’t that’s pretty much the only words that come out of mouth lately.
I think my toddlers drink a energy drink daily somehow. They are wild and crazy! Especially my boy he just wants to see how far up he can climb and then jump. Which in return gives me a heart attack. And my girl just wants to torture her brother and put on as much make up as possible (shes 5) !
A few days ago i was checking my email like always and not to my surprise had an email from her teacher saying she was hurting other students by bending their fingers back !! What !! What the heck !! My 1st thought was where in the world did she learn this madness? And good god her teacher is going to think we do this “finger bending” at home!
So when i picked her up that day we had a long talk. She said yes mom i did that but only to boys ummm… well only to boys is still not okay. They had their knees on my knees ar circle time i told them to move and they wouldn’t. So i explained you cannot do this ever again and if someone is bothering you tell your teacher and let her handle it. She said okay mom i promise. In my eyes that talk was good enough. #1 she told the truth. #2 she had what she thought was a good reason to do this (wow) !! And #3 I know how she feels i feel like bending peoples fingers back on a daily basis no that doesn’t make it okay but still all tiddlers react differently. And not to mention when you get a note sent home you feel like the worst mom ever !!!
Alen E. Kazdin professor of child psychology at Yale University says dont make such a big deal out of your kids actions and habits. Sometimes they will act like pint-sized sociopaths, but does not indicate trouble down the road.
Then i started thinking adults get mad, sad, angry and over stimulated daily and 1/2 the time adults dont control how they are feeling the correct way. So what makes people think that kids sre not going to act out and do things that people frown on ? Everytime we see a fussy mad toddler that’s pitching a fit does not mean the parents are not doing a good job it means kids are not robots and react on what they are feeling. And that is okay !!
Not taking a minute to put things in perspective has made me act more sternly towards my kids! Now if i can remember to do this more all my stop, no and don’t may turn into kids being kids.
In general i have two amazing toddlers and I’m going to do better with my expectations of them.